Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Stupid economy making bargainhunters out of other brides...

Bummer--there was the most beautiful wedding dress on eBay, by my favorite wedding dress designer, at an amazing price, and I went in at the last minute to bid and I bid up and I bid up and whoever else wanted it wanted it, I guess, more.

I have a friend who designs dresses and I'm open to the idea of a custom dress, but it also makes me hugely nervous. What if I don't like it and it ruins the friendship? What if I'm not brave enough to tell her I don't like it and I wind up wearing something I don't love? Does one offer to pay someone for doing something like that, and if so, how much? What if it winds up LOOKING handmade, my worst fear of all? There are so many unknowns; it makes me very nervous.

I can't afford the dresses I really like, heh. And I'm too snobby to be happy with something that's not truly special. So I guess I'll keep looking, and comfort myself by reminding myself that the dress on eBay was a few sizes too big. I know things can get altered down, but with the many kinds of delicate fabric involved in this particular dress, I was worried about the alterations. And I still have almost a year to find the dress. Wah, you can tell I'm sad, but I'll get over it :)* My presentation went exceedingly well this afternoon, and in the grand scheme of things, that's more important (since an author's, you know, career depends upon it).

*In case you're wondering, I DID try the traditional "go to a bridal boutique with your mom" route, and it was one of the more disheartening experiences of my life. It's really awesome to be lectured sternly on the price of lace and basically shaken out the door with the rug after forty minutes. Trying on wedding dresses was supposed to make you cry in a good way, I thought, not a sad way.

In actual earthshattering news, the election is only seven days away. Discuss.

7 comments:

Keith said...
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The Other Lion said...

Wow! I love how someone spammed your blog. Twice! With links. That's nice.

You will find it. I agree that the one on ebay would have been a gamble. I say no to homemade. I have seen homemade bridesmaids dresses go bad too often. But I also don't know your friend. But..... I am not helpful! Maybe just keep in mind that if you find something really close to perfect, you can probably have the changes made by your friend or the store.

bridgett said...

don't have your friend make it! i just read on someone's blog recently about how they had their friend make it and it turned out horribly and they were too chicken to say anything until the absolute last minute. yikes.

good luck finding a dress!

p.s. obama is having a rally on election night in chicago right across from where i work and i'm going!!

traci said...

The only advice I have is that you should try a different bridal boutique. Do not let yourself be bullied (I know...). This should be a wonderful experience, and GOOD bridal boutique staff know that in order to sell a dress, they have to make the bride feel like a goddess. You're fantastic, and you deserve the dress you crave. You'll get it.

Laura said...

This is where I'm going to go next: http://www.bridalgarden.org/intheshop.html.

Bridget: I'M SO JEALOUS! Take pictures and post about it, okay??

Trixie said...

The first time I went to a bridal store, I left in tears and put off going back for about 3 months. Then I went to 6 in one day and when I found the dress at the very last one I visited, I cried again but I think it was more out of exhaustion. Hang in there, things will fall together eventually.